Comments on: Public marriage proposals and what women really want

By: Elwood

Elwood — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 04:33:14 +0000

I always worry about the Big Grand Gestures, but I do enjoy watching them – especially if they fail. Because I’m evil.

I have nothing new to add, except that I agree that it’s best a previously discussed thing, done off-other-occasion, and kept simple.

I did ask my FIL for my wife’s hand in marriage, but it was while we were changing into our tuxes before the wedding.

Better late than never, huh?

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By: Judes_08

Judes_08 — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 01:48:21 +0000

Wow. I can see both sides on this one. I think it depends on the couple and situation. For me, I love it when Darren spoils me just because with flowers or cards. But I also love it just as much when he slips notes in my purse or car. I think part of love is knowing a person so well that you would know what,when or how your partner will react to what you give or do for them. Last blog post from Judes_08 - Pickles

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 21:50:15 +0000

Good point, Lindsey. Asking the dad for permission is a MUST in my book.

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 21:41:24 +0000

Amy: See, that's how you do a beach proposal. I feel compelled to add that when one of my uncles pulled me aside one day to show me the ring he'd bought his girlfriend, and told me that he planned to propose that evening, while lots of family and friends were present, there was no question in my mind that it was a great idea. She was already in effect a part of the family, and had traveled to be with us for the holiday. It was done with very little ceremony, and she thanked us all for being there and sparing her the effort of having to call us all to share the news that she'd be "officially" our aunt/sister/whatever! Last blog post from Heather - Belated Early Birthday Tidings

By: Lindsey G.

Lindsey G. — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 21:31:37 +0000

Andrew asked for my dad’s blessing. Not exactly permission but just his blessing and approval I guess. I like the idea of that, too! You should ask my family if you’re welcome in just like you’re asking me

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By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 21:17:28 +0000

Heather, thankfully my beach experience was good...we were basically alone at night with a full moon...awww.... And for me, the proposal wasn't a shock because I knew he'd asked my dad's permission. Maybe old-fashioned but I hope that still goes on today and would if I ever had to do it again. I can't imagine being shocked by a proposal. Then again, Scott and I dated 3 years before I got a proposal so I'm not really sure we're a good example. Last blog post from Amy - Victim of OCD

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 21:12:17 +0000

I'm with you for the most part. When I was proposed to, it was not only very public, but not thought out, and the experience made me rather uneasy. Proposing at the beach sounds nice, but when there are asshole tourists yelling down at you to SAY NO!, it kind of takes away from the moment. In general though, I kind of feel like a marriage proposal shouldn't be a TOTAL shock. For me, I'd like to think that when/if I were to receive another proposal, the poor guy won't be sweating whether I'm going to accept. Ideally, I dunno, the topic will have at least come up at some point, right? It won't be just out of the blue after we've never even talked about it. Of course, I also think that a smart guy would talk to my best friend if he had any doubt, because any guy I'd marry would get along with her and know he could call. As for flowers, expensive roses? No. Keep your money, guys. But I am a sucker for a well-timed simple "I'm thinking of you," and if your style is sending flowers, and you know I love the smell of stargazer lilies & send me one for my desk, well, I'm not gonna argue with that! It's not the flower though, but the thought. My workspace is wallpapered with Elvis and comic strips and silly sketches sent to me by friends who know how to make me smile. Last blog post from Heather - Belated Early Birthday Tidings

By: Jeffrey

Jeffrey — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 19:36:33 +0000

I love the adds that are showing up with this post (e.g. “Propose in a hot air balloon over the So. California wine country.”) Go figure.

By: Michael O'Neill

Michael O'Neill — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 18:52:37 +0000

Dames are easy. Don't overthink it. Last blog post from Michael O'Neill - Qu’est-ce Que C’est?

By: Lindsey G.

Lindsey G. — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 18:20:46 +0000

Oh and the flowers thing…Harris Teeter flower deparment is lovely! Gorgeous flowers for under $5 most of the time! You want rose petals? Buy 2 roses and rip the petals off! That’s plenty!

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